A good mate did something exceptional on the weekend and he brushed it away in apparent humility …”It was nothing…” And I felt a bit ripped of for me and for him. The experts say there are great reasons to acknowledge our strengths. We are wired for the negative—to find what is wrong. In fact, research has found that bad out weights good: bad health, relationships, and parenting have stronger effects on us than good health, relationships, and parenting. So it’s OK to say you are doing OK, or great to say you did great, for you and those around you.